How To Live Your Life By Design Not Default

most people in life are living their life by default who the heck ever told us about getting intentional about life who on Earth ever taught us how to design our dream life it's those goals those dreams that help give our life Direction and help us to move in a certain [Music] way so quite a long time ago now I mean many many years ago I came across a quote by Tony Robbins and he said 10 years from now you'll surely arrive the question is where and I remember thinking to myself I don't know I don't know where I don't know where I'm going to arrive in 10 years and um it made me realize maybe this is why I've been going around in circles maybe this is why I've been feeling so stuck and so frustrated because I don't actually know where I'm trying to get to uh at the time I felt like so much anxiety around I mean I felt like I was having a quarter life crisis at the time and I felt like I wanted to live a big and amazing life but I just didn't know what it really looked like and I felt so trapped because I wasn't living the life I wanted to be living but I also just didn't know what the answers were but when I saw that Tony Robbins quote it made me realize well I'm never going to get out of the situation I'm in until I actually know where I'm trying to get to until I have that Clarity up until that point I was l largely living my life by default Not By Design and I realized it needed to change and the sad part about all of this is that most people in life are living their life by default so many people are just drifting through life and unfairly so I think because who the heck ever told us about getting intentional about life who on Earth ever taught us how to design our Dream Life how to actually figure out what it was all supposed to look like no one ever told us that no one told most people about that and so most people are just floating through life if you like literally went out onto the streets and started talking to people and said hey what are your goals for the next 10 years what are your goals for the next year most people would look at you like I don't know I know I know so many of you here listening to this podcast are different and I know a lot of you do have goals which is amazing because it's those goals those dreams that help give our life Direction and help us to move in a certain way for me when I decided back then what I wanted what I wanted my dream life to look like what I wanted my dream dream business to look like it then it's it then sorry there's a siren going by it then was that that helped shape who I became that getting clear on those things deter like change the decisions I made the action I took and because of the decisions and the clarity and the intentions I set all those years ago that's what has got me to the life that I'm living today the life I am living today is a life I set out to live by Design with intention on purpose I am living this life because of who I became all those years ago because of the actions I began to take all those years ago because of the direction I set myself in all those years ago and the truth is who I become 10 years from now is going to be determined by who I am being today the actions I am taking today and it's the same for all of us but if we're not clear on that if we're a bit hazy and wishy washy with it then where the heck are we going to end up I don't know and so for me this has been such an important part of my life and it always has to be fair I've always felt so fortunate because my dad ever since I was a little kid always said to me Carrie you can do anything you put your mind to and he always got me to believe in myself and to believe that like anything was possible he was always going around the house quoting Jim ran he was always um you know giving me personal development books I remember as a teenager he would buy me uh he he bought me the Rich Dad Poor Dad books he bought me um sha kovi who was Steven kov or is Steven K's son the um Seven Habits of Highly affective teenagers I remember him sitting me down in front of the TV and it was like a videotape of Jim row I was like Dad who is this old man you were wanting me to watch like an at the time like there was some bits I got some bits I didn't um I when I was like 9 or 10 he sent me and my sister and brothers on this weekend course to learn about the power of the mind and the power of dreaming and we got taught how to do visualizations and how to dream and think so from a really young age I have been exposed to this and you know so many of you who have listened to this podcast for a long time and watched my videos for a long time you've probably seen my goal folder where I literally in my goal folder from when I was a teenager have all the things in there about I mean like I got bank statements and changed bank statements to or I added like all the zeros on I think one of them was like 400 and something million um there was pictures of houses of designs I wanted I was wanted to build my own house and there was designs in there there was cars there was um a bottle of perfume in there of how I wanted my life to smell when I was successful so for a really long time I've been doing this but like even when I got to my mid 20s and I'd fallen off the bandwagon and I had just kind of disconnected from dreaming and that's when I got stuck in that rut and this cycle of like where the hell am I going in my life and I felt really stuck and that's a place that I think so many of us find ourselves in and I I still have I mean over the years even since then have found myself in that where am I going what am I doing what is this all about and I always feel like when I get to that place it's because I'm so disconnected from myself I'm so disconnected from my dreams I just don't have a clar vision so but the the point for me is that I know how to get back to the Clear Vision I know how I can get reconnected I know how I can start being intentional about what I want for myself and all of us can do this as simple stuff and it's just making the time for it which so often we don't make the time because we're busy doing so many other things which we think are more important but quite frankly there's nothing more important than this because this determines who you show up to be the actions you take the decisions you make it determines the life you have for you your family the people around you everything so we have to start with from that place of attention for ourselves for our families for what we want the kind of life we want so to give you an example the life I live today looks like this I run a multiple seven fig online business um that has grown over the past you know 10 plus years I um I work a 4- day week uh actually before that I not only that I run the business that I love a business that makes a difference in in a positive way every single day we are impacting the lives of women from all around the world which is so meaningful because my first business 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