What To Do When You Fall Out Of Love With Your Business
sometimes the hardest thing to do is to be honest with yourself takes so much courage to be honest with yourself but know that you're not alone and this is something that all of us experience and go [Music] through this episode is probably going to be a bit of a vulnerable one I got a question that came in that I really want to answer something that I think probably so many of us experienced in fact probably all of us experienc it and she said what have been your go-to actions when you've been having a low in loving your business and you feel like you've fallen out of love with it a bit it's a great question and I know that it's something that I have experienced over and over and over again I have sat down many times with my dad and talked to him about feeling like I've lost my love for it all and um talk to him about like what I should do and I remember at one point A friend of mine was was wanting to like gear up to sell her business and I was like oh maybe I could figure out selling my business and so I started looking into it and well not seriously but I started to kind of think about it and because I was like I just reached a point where I was just like I do not love this anymore like I'm really struggling with this and um there have been times where I felt really trapped by my business and yeah where I just felt really lost with like you know where to take it and what to do and I think that it's such an important conversation to have something really important to talk about because so often you hear people say about setting your heart on fire and you know putting your heart and soul into it and all this stuff but like anything in life like any relationship or anything like there's ups and downs I don't know a single relationship where you know like a me like a really close relationship where you don't have ups and downs and challenges to battle through that then makes you feel like f out of love I remember actually my um husband's Auntie gave me um what I thought was a great piece of advice when we got married she said remember Carrie that you're going to go through phases where you'll fall out of love with him and you'll go through phases where he'll fall out of love with you and then you'll go through phases where you fall out with each other at the same time and just remember to like know that that's going to happen and just work your way through it and I was like huh okay and I think that when she said that it means like it's not going to be Rosy all the time there's going to be moments where it's just like it's just fed up and you need a break from it all and I feel the same way in business like sometimes I'm just fed up with it and I'm just I need a break I need a break I need to do something else or you know put my focus in something else and I think that this is just human nature and normal so if you feel like you've fallen out of love with your business then you are definitely not alone but I do think there are some questions to work through and things that I work through to like really trying to get to the bottom of it and thinking like hang on a sec is it because this isn't really what I should be focusing on anymore and I've got to give myself the space to do the next thing or is it because of something else like what is really going on under the surface of why I've fallen out of love with my business so I would love to share with you the things that have really helped me when I have gone through these phases and like I said I've gone through these phas a lot and especially like since having kids like when I had kids I like all of a sudden there was something way more important than my business and I found it really difficult cuz I think a lot of the business lost its meaning for me in a way and I've really just struggled with what to show up and say what to talk about and um I just wanted to there moments where I just wanted to be a stay-at-home mom and I just wanted to give the business up and it really made me feel like I just really struggled because um didn't know what to do and yeah fell out I fell out of love with it so what to do when you are feeling like you're falling out of love with your business the first thing that I do when I recognize that I'm in one of those phases of just feeling like I've lost the love for my business is I reconnect with myself and with what I actually want and I look up what's working what's not working what's making me feel Fed Up how can I change it what can I do differently and I start to unpick you know why I'm feeling the way I feel and I feel like in doing this exercise alone it can illuminate so much of like what is going on so for me in doing this is I literally like to get out into a different space so take yourself off to the spa for a day or take yourself to a coffee shop or go for a walk in a forest or sit by a lake or go wherever go to the beach go wherever that feels good for you but out of your normal environment and just take your notebook and a pen and allow yourself to really kind of journal on this and journal on what is going on what why do you feel the way you feel why have you lost the love write and see like what comes up for you when you give yourself permission to write about it and to think about it like what is popping up for you I think so often from for me when I've done this I have recognized that the reason I feel like I've fallen out of love with my business is because I'm actually not doing things that are you know my thing that I love utilizing my strengths in the business a really good exercise as well is looking at writing down what your strengths are and then looking at writing down your the the things that you just don't like doing the stuff you just don't love the stuff that makes you feel exhausted or drained or fed up and make a list of the stuff that lights you up and makes you feel amazing and the stuff that doesn't and then go through it and think where am I spending my time and check off or Circle the Aras where you spend most of your time and then look at it and I find that when I'm going through phases where I'm falling out of love with my business or I've fallen out of love with it my focus is on the stuff that either I'm not good at I don't enjoy and um and it's like out of balance and it's like okay no wonder I'm feeling like this because I'm just my my time is going on doing stuff I don't want to be doing and sometimes it's that you just have to do stuff that you don't want to do because maybe you don't have a team yet and you have to do it maybe it's just shuffling things around or just having a phase of just like putting that stuff on por so you can actually do get back to the stuff that does actually light you up so really thinking throughout stuff and like I said getting out of your normal routine get out of your normal routine just even for like a day or a week or go away somewhere I find when I give myself that break it give I give myself the P the space to